How to Start Trusting Yourself (Even When You Feel Full of Doubt)
Do you ever feel like you’re supposed to have it all figured out—but deep down, you still don’t trust yourself?
Maybe you second-guess your choices.
Maybe you ask for advice, then feel confused by your own wants.
Maybe you try to stay positive, but underneath, there’s a quiet feeling of:
“Am I doing this right?”
If that resonates, you’re not alone.
Many of my therapy clients—especially young adults struggling with self-worth—come to me with a common, tender question:
“How do I learn to trust myself?”
Why It’s So Hard to Trust Yourself
You might be doing all the “right” things: working, being responsible, trying to grow… but still feel unsure.
Sometimes, that lack of self-trust comes from:
Growing up in an environment where your feelings were dismissed or misunderstood
Constant pressure to achieve or be perfect
Past trauma or relationships that made you doubt your instincts
Anxiety or high sensitivity that overwhelms your inner clarity
Trusting yourself is not about always having the answers.
It’s about building a steady relationship with yourself.
One where you feel safe to explore your feelings, make mistakes, and grow without shame.
3 Gentle Ways to Start Trusting Yourself Again
Notice when you override your inner knowing.
Do you say “yes” when your body says “no”? Do you keep quiet when something matters to you? These are clues.
Ask: “What would I do if I trusted myself?”
This question bypasses perfectionism and taps into wisdom. You don’t have to act on it right away—just notice what comes up.
Celebrate the small wins.
Each time you make a decision that aligns with your truth (even a tiny one), you’re rebuilding the bridge to yourself.
Therapy Can Help You Learn to Trust Yourself
If you’ve been living with self-doubt, anxiety, or sensitivity that makes everyday decisions feel overwhelming, therapy can give you space to reconnect to yourself.
In my practice, I help young adults build confidence, set boundaries, and rediscover the inner voice that’s been buried under fear or pressure.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
Learning to trust yourself is a process—and you deserve support on that journey.
📍Looking for a therapist for young adults in California?
Let’s talk. I offer online therapy for sensitive, self-reflective people who want to feel more grounded and whole.
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